“Against thee, thee only, have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight …” (Psalm 51:4)
Doing right by way of man is predicated upon our doing right by way of God. If we will love God as we ought, we will hurt no one. David understood that his wrongdoing toward Uriah and his wife happened because of a fundamental breakdown in his relationship with his God.
There are times when we need to talk things out with another. We need to acknowledge where we went wrong and apologize. But after we have left our gift at the altar, and made things right on a human level, we need to return to the altar. Our behavior will never change until there is godly sorrow at work resulting in repentance toward God. All sin against man is first against God.
We need honest, open conversation with God. We need His help sorting through our problems. We can’t always be blaming everyone but ourselves. No, it was not that woman that He gave us, or that woman who wasn’t dressed properly, that caused us to sin – we did it because we chose to forget our God in the moment of temptation. Only as we are willing to confess our sin can God forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Let’s be willing to look in the mirror with God standing by our side. Only as we are willing to address the bigger issues will God be able change us at the level we need changing.